Saturday, June 20, 2009
Then and Now
As the summer days start to heat up, it's been taking its toll on our mate (mah-tay) sessions. I apparently am made of nothing but sweetness (or whatever mosquitos are attracted to) because I can't be outside for 5 minutes without coming inside with as many bites, therefore isolating my mate sipping to the indoors.
It got me thinking about pesky pests. In Hawai'i, my arch nemesis was, what we called, the 747 of cockroaches. It's name was suitable because these things are huge...and they fly. Thankfully, since being on the mainland, I haven't encountered one of the like.
However, the other night, I found something that not only rivals the 747, but is far more dangerous. Imagine getting bit by one of these suckers (sorry about the resolution, but I, ahem, Dario got a new camera as an early Father's Day present so that shouldn't happen again. And just for references' sake, one of its legs is about as long as one of my fingers)...
I've never in my life seen a mosquito this big! I can remember seeing the little small black mosquitos in Hawai'i, but I've never seen one that more resembled a daddy long legged spider!
Must be a Southern thing. But as far as I can tell, this ain't no Belle, nor is it "charming" in any way.
Aloha Y'all Later!
Monday, June 8, 2009
Total Slacker
Here are some more images of the paint job we completed in this cute craftsmen. Don't you love the colors?!
The owners added on a screened-in porch which we painted as well.
I'll try to post some more pics of some of my favorite Mordecai homes soon.
Aloha Y'all Later!
Friday, May 22, 2009
The Truth Shall Set You Free
Hola!
I'm a huge fan of reality television. And I don't consider it a "guilty pleasure", nor am I ashamed to admit that I watch it. Although, when I think about it, nowadays, reality television is becoming more of an oxymoron since they are practically scripted, but I find all the drama and build up to be too captivating to avoid, like passing a car wreck on the highway, you just have to slow down and look.
I can remember when it all started. I was 12 I think, when the very first The Real World debuted on MTV. Now that was reality television - - even for the producers and camera men, they didn't even really know how to manipulate their cast yet! Fast-forward to the Las Vegas season when they stripped the "7 strangers living in a house together" of a television, installed a jacuzzi, and all but spoon-fed them alcohol 24/7, "and folks, we've got ourselves a show," they said to themselves. Now, the Music Television station has pretty much been converted to a reality show cable channel because I can't remember the last time I saw an actual video on MTV.
Anyways, I could go on and on about how, with the advent of the internet, the whole idea of reality television, and this warped and addicting sense of voyeurism has taken over the world, and has literally, right before our very eyes, actually changed the way we live, the way the world works, the way everything was, like evolution occurring at warp speed. The magnitude of its power, to think about it, is just too much to deal with right now, when all I really meant to discuss this morning was American Idol.
I thoroughly enjoy watching American Idol. In the first few weeks of airing, when they show the customary audition process, I can always guarantee at least one PIMP moment. OMG! I just made that up myself just now! I was trying to think of the word Liz Lemon from 30 Rock used for laughing so hard you pee, pilfing or something, when I realized, just now, that the acronym for pee in my pants is PIMP! I'm a comedic genius! PIMP! (Start saying it, maybe it'll catch on!) OK, anyway, I always laugh so hard I "PIMP" when I see some of these contestants, and the lengths of desperation they subject themselves to just to satisfy their own need for masochistic treatment. I mean, are these people for real? Someone must have dared them, I think to myself...then I wonder how much I'd be willing to take if someone bet me to go on the show to embarrass myself. Probably not much, since, as you guys know, I make a habit of embarrassing myself everyday in some manner.
But, on to the main point. There have been all these blogs, now and throughout the season, talking about the outstandingly talented Adam Lambert, and how, albeit deserving, no one was sure he'd make it far in the show because some fan bases may find him off-putting. Ohhhh, he's so different. God forbid, in the country where we herald freedom to speak, to do, to be, someone display anything other than middle-of-the-road commonplace-ness. He wears "guyliner", and tight leather pants. " Yeah, he's talented but I don't know how far he'll get," they say.
Well, lo and behold, Adam was in the final two, competing against middle-of-the-road, commonplace Kris Allen for the title of American Idol. Kris won, Adam lost. And now, the internet is abuzz with everyone offering their 2-cent opinions on what happened - - and darn it, I refuse to be any different! You see, this is what I love (hate, really) about the media. They twist, and turn, and jumble up, and concoct all of these ideas that, I think, really just continues to generate scorn and contempt. How do I explain...I think there is power in words, and although it is the rule of journalism to be unbiased while reporting all sides of a topic, just by putting an idea out there can, subconsciously, propagate dying bigotries. They are trying to say that Adam could never have won because America will not support an American Idol so unconventional. That his "ambiguous" sexuality coupled with his overtly sexual presence was his doom. Are you kidding? OK, first of all, "ambiguous?!?!?!" I don't know a person alive who would question Adam's sexual orientation (just like everyone knew season 2 runner-up Clay Aiken was gay and would come out sooner or later...He was in my high school history class btw!), and they still supported him. They say that the American Idol vote resembled the vote for presidency, where the conservative states voted for Kris, and the liberal states for Adam. That the Hillary votes (ousted 2nd runner-up Danny Gokey) would be up for grabs. Would her supporters side with McCain or Obama (Allen or Lambert)? They suggest that the fan base Gokey, a church music director, acquired, got behind Allen, a southerner and worship leader, after he was eliminated, based on their similar religious backgrounds and stories. Have these people lost their minds?!?! As if there were some huge, covert operation amongst the religious sector of the American population (who would also have to happen to be American Idol fans and voters) that got together and promised that an "ambiguously" sexual man with awe-inspiring vocals and black nail polish will never win! What is wrong with the world?! Just like the media made a huge deal of Obama's Blackness: It could cost him the vote of the American public, oh my Lord, a Black man. Nevermind the fact that he's a Harvard educated, eloquent and convincing orator, and genuine politician (if that exists), no world, he's Black! And his wife is really Black because both of her parents are Black, not just half of them, like Obama's! And what happened? After all was said and done, and they reviewed the polls and percentages, it turns out that race was not even a factor in the majority of the people who voted - - not amongst women age 35-65, not amongst white men who were in World War II and stationed in Italy and currently earn over $75,000 a year, not amongst the naturally blond-haired population, age 27-42, who are also tap dancers, and certainly not amongst the silly, young population who think they have the power to change the world age group of 18-29.
If they want to compare American Idol to the U.S. presidential race, then let me say, just as the case was that race had nothing to do with Obama's win/loss, homosexuality has nothing to do with Adam's! When will the media stop underestimating the consciousness and humanity of the American population?! The majority doesn't give a damn that Adam is indisputably gay (see proof here...)
or that Obama is Black (see proof here...);
But when journalists publish these stories about the supposed disadvantages of each candidate, which happen to be unalterable birth traits, they put, what was possibly a docked trained, in motion again, planting the idea in everyone's head, that maybe these laughable, insignificant components should actually make a difference. I believe it to be irresponsible and ludicrous.
Not that there aren't some idiotic people who are, and prefer to be, living in another era, and base their opinions on such frivolity, but I truly don't think any of the aforementioned speculations are the reason Adam lost.
It just so happens that I know the truth.
I'll tell you why he lost, and it's such a simple, uncomplicated, all-American answer:
KRIS ALLEN WAS THE UNDERDOG!
And America loves an underdog! Just as it's part of our nature, as Americans, to be independent and goal-oriented, and love Apple pie and vanilla ice cream, it is a pre-requisite for us to always vote for the underdog. It's rooted in our history, from athletics to politics (look out, I did my research for this one people!). Like when Jack Dempsey beat Jess Willard in 1919 for the heavyweight championship title, or when Truman won the presidential election in 1948, when the Rays beat the Phillies in the 2008 World Series, when the nation turned their back on nice guy Jason Mesnick for dumping Melissa on national television. And now, when Kris Allen defeated, the more talented, Adam Lambert. That's all it was. No need to go over-analyzing everything (I can't believed I just typed those words, for over-analyzing is my favorite pastime). People recognized Lambert's gift as a singer and performer, and knew that he would have a future laid out for him, even if he lost. Fans feared for Allen, your typical, shy, humble, boy-next-door, because, although talented in his own right, he might all but disappear in the overpowering and overwhelming shadow cast by Lambert. America only rewarded what we know is to be admired. Because of the responsibility of becoming the most powerful nation in the world, we live our lives much differently than our prior, humble beginnings as a country; Although we now revere a fast-paced, work hard, play hard lifestyle, we still recognize, and are happy to accept a glimpse of, what was once valued, and possible, in Allen: slow and steady wins the race, humility, diligence, and modesty.
World: Stop underestimating the hearts and minds of the American people. There have been many a time when a decision has been made that comes from a genuine intention. We are not as superficial as you think.
Aloha Y'all Later!
Photos downloaded from Flickr, from top to bottom: MTV"S Real World by cutesillybillie; Adam Lambert by LP<321; Adam Lambert and Kris Allen by popstarmagazine; Adam Lambert by LP<321; Barack Obama, II's Kenya Family by eqadams63; Kris Allen by Bork Chef
Wednesday, May 20, 2009
One of Those People
Hola!
I am very slowly, frustratingly slowly, learning about this world of blog. Just like any little microcosm of varying interests, gamblers, outdoor enthusiasts, Trekkie's, the blogosphere, is a unique community of people dedicated to sharing their thoughts and wisdom with the world. Just as one could assume that all the successful actors in the world are required to have some amount of narcissism (after all, they must get addicted to the rush of seeing themselves on that big screen, the camera zooming in on their blessed faces and sculptured physiques, slow-motion panning from top to bottom, basking in the adoration of execs, agents, personal assistants, all the people they make money for), one could assume that it is necessary for bloggers to possess a certain level of expertise when rendering a blog-o-pinion. Although I haven't had the time nor interest in perusing a ton of mediocre blogs in order to find the true gems, the ones I've been drawn to are indeed, well-written, informative, and worthy of adhering their suggestions. Which, in turn, makes me question my standing in the community.
I don't know how few and far between the success stories are, but the blogs I've recently subscribed to, have resulted in, for the originators, a world of opportunities: press releases, book deals, income, thousands of followers. This is also the case for a couple of people who were guests on Oprah the other day too, and I can only imagine, their status has skyrocketed since.
I know I'm far off from that point, but I wonder how you get on the path to follow these success stories?
A few, obvious, pointers I'm assuming (and came up with all by myself) are these:
First and foremost, honesty. I think readers and followers are savvy. If they are following your blog, most likely it means they have a direct relation or interest in the topic one is writing about. Because of this, I think it's really easy to read between the lines, and they can sense when a blogger is passionate, truthful and fair about what they post.
Second, I'm not totally sure, but I think it would be best to narrow down the main topic of what most of one's blog is going to be about. This is where I'm having some difficulty. I have so many ideas I want to share, that I don't know what to exactly focus on. I've gone from writing about cakes to haircuts! And I still haven't found a great opportunity to start posting blogs about our business, and home improvement suggestions.
Which then leads me to my next dilemma, which is really just an insecurity. Do I possess the expertise to express my own thoughts and wisdom to the world (the world being the 5 people that follow this blog)? Yes, I have worked in the construction industry for 6 years now, and I'm aware that I know more than the average person about joint compound and the difference between oil and latex; But when I see these blogs created by these incredibly talented, creative, artistic people, it makes me question, again, my standing in the community. I am mere resident, they are city council, mayor even.
Perhaps this all has to do with my turning 30. Well, in a roundabout way. Let me explain. I believe the most successful blogs have to do with people that write about what they are most passionate about. If you are passionate about something, chances are, you have a sufficient amount of knowledge regarding the subject matter, because you will have studied, researched, and kept current about the topic. This happens to be a recurring them in my life, pondering my true passion, my reason for living, the thing that makes my life fulfilling and worthwhile. I would have guessed that by the time your thirty-ish, these question would all be answered.
I have such admiration, and envy, for the people whom I read about. Their skill for photography, their eye for design, their skill in writing. I admire and envy friends like Bailey, who knew, since I've known her, that she wanted to study medicine, or Heather, who although found herself working in the unexpected field of finance, is satisfied and enjoys her job, and has cemented her future and progress with them. Britt, although unhappy in her current job status, is an undiscovered talent, and I am convinced that the day she decides to retire her life in academia, will be a successful and highly pursued photographer or boutique owner, which happens to be among her passions.
How do you get to be one of those people, who know what they want and go after it? Whose successes and rewards come naturally, since through pursuing their passion, have been free to work hard and dedicate themselves to something they believe in and enjoy doing.
I see and read about these people that are full of such creative expression and I am awed by their talent, and wonder how I would love to have people like them in my local circle of friends so I could hang out with them and maybe their abilities will just somehow, magically rub off on me. However, although I can easily idolize and appreciate these imaginary friends of mine, they are living their dreams. I have to find my own dream to aspire to.
So then, how does one go about finding their true calling, their passion in life?
Here's one way...Since I seem to be having a difficult time thinking of the perfect fit for me, I thought I'd conjure up a list of all of the things I love to do and what I consider to be passionate about, and put it on you, "the world". If anyone has any suggestions or ideas of what kind of job could potentially actualize from this list, please let me know...asap. I'm already 30, you know, I need to get this wrapped up already.
1. Travel
2. Culture
3. Food
4. Volleyball
5. Writing
6. Creativity
7. Talking with people (though not in front of a lot of people)
8. Home improvement/DIY projects
9. Interior Decorating
...and if I'm being totally honest, like we talked about earlier, I'm really passionate about laying on the couch, watching reality television, playing brickbreaker on my blackberry.
Aloha Y'all Later!
Saturday, May 16, 2009
The Symbol of Unity
Hola,
I mentioned that on Mother's Day, we went to Falls Lake to hang out as a family. I became curious, as I looked around at our fellow lake go-ers, about the fact that there are certain things in life that unite people, or at least, there are some things that are common interests, that break cultural and racial divides. Going to the lake, watching your children have fun, conversation, and family, are some, just to name a few.
And grilling.
As the families gathered and enjoyed one anothers' company, I stalked them carefully, growing more and more curious. My stake-out began, first, with just my eyes. My glances became stares, eventually causing a reaction in my legs, which led me to their picnic tables, and soon my mouth was spitting out some words about some blog I write and how my curiosity of cultures leads me to do bold and brash things, and before I knew it, I had whipped out a camera and started taking pictures of the grills that unite a common interest in all people - food. Now, I didn't mean for it to be some cultural anthropological study on cliche foods people eat, but it was kind of funny to see the stereotypical foods on the grills of the families of different races and cultures. I fought with the idea of whether it would be offensive to display the foods based on peoples' background, but then I realized something. Stereotypes, obviously, exist because there is some truth to them. I think in our day and age, where it has become detrimental to one's character if they are not politically correct or sensitive about their opinions, that the actual word stereotype has taken on a negative connotation. I understand that in order to quell some of the harsh realities of discrimination, groups have worked hard to fight what is considered a negative stereotype about them, and in many cases, has resulted in positive and necessary changes. But in this case, I see these grills as examples of pride in each owns' culture and history. Do Black people eat a lot of chicken? Yes, we do eat a lot of chicken, and I don't know why we eat so much damn chicken, and I don't exactly know if there's a historical reason behind it that I'd like to get into right now, but since when did it become offensive to be associated with chicken? Besides, as you'll see below, rather than a simple stereotype, I see the picture represents what that particular woman learned, perhaps at the side of her mother, watching and learning as a child, the secrets to her flavorful family recipe dish. The Mexican family eats flour tortillas, not bread, with their meals, because it is part of their inherent upbringing, remembering their abuelas kneading dough and warming the circular concoctions on the heavy, cast iron skillet. Some stereotypes do prove to be cruel and untrue, but there are some that exist that are true to the nature of the groups they represent, and should indeed serve as a reminder of the beautiful history of each culture. After all, a stereotype is not dreamed up overnight...why do we work so hard to erase the ones that are representative of who we are instead of embracing them as part of who we are?
So, FYI, all of that was just a disclaimer to allow me to make fun of the some-to-be perceived stereotypes below. Besides, I'm allowed to comment on the following because I represent each group of people, in some way or another, so, try to find the humor in it.
Let's start with our grill. We were eating short ribs, infused with homemade chimichurri. This stuff, and we have proof from other "testing" panels we've conducted amongst friends and family, is the best seasoning around. It really adds great flavor to beef and chicken, and man, inject it into a turkey and fry it for Thanksgiving and you'll never go back to slaving over roasting one for hours and hours. It's so good, we're seriously thinking about marketing it, which is why, unfortunately, I can't give you the recipe here. In any case, I've never met a vegetarian Uruguayan. They are proud of their beef. It's their biggest source of exportation, in fact, and for them, a meal is just not a meal without a big ol' slab of meat taking up most of the plate. And they really savor (savor, which I am substituting here for the word, devour) their beef. they take pride in grilling it (the preferred method), serving it for friends when they have them over for dinner, and are perfectly content if there are no side dishes, so long as they have a piece of bread to sandwich it in between. And they are great grillers. We also threw some chorizo Argentino (Argentinian sausage) up on there for fun.
An African-American family enjoys some chicken, and pork ribs. Rubbed and marinated in a "secret family" mustard-based sauce. And some hot dogs for the kiddies.
A Mexican family was busy grilling churrasco (flank steak) and grilled corn husks. Mmm, yummy! They had some warm tortillas nearby with some homemade guacamole, they explained, to make some fajitas.
Another group from Mexico was enjoying chicken wings - - SPICY HOT chicken wings, of course...ay, muy picante!
Hey, who says Americans are lazy? Well, these guys did grill up some boxed frozen hamburgers. Maybe some potato salad on the side...purchased from the local supermarket, I'm guessing.
You know, I had an epiphany that day. I understood something so profound on that special day, that I decided to share here with you all today, and it is this...the grill should stand as the new symbol of unity and equality, for no matter what gets cooked on it, be it marinated veggies with butter and salt and pepper to taste, good old American fare hot dogs and hamburgers, or some warmed tortillas, it is the actions which take place around this great culinary tool - the hugging, the sharing, the caring - among the people who live and love with you, that makes it such a universal and important figure in the history of mankind...
...Although, I suppose if I get truly historical and literal about it, the actual symbol should be fire and not the grill because it's the fact that all people require heat to cook and (voice trails off)....okay then, point taken.
So...I'm gonna go now.
Think about it.
What are you cooking up for dinner tonight?
In the meantime, since I can't share the chimichurri recipe, try out this marinade I made up one day that makes for the best:
Chicken Wing Marinade
1 bag chicken wings
juice of 3 lemons
1 to 1-1/2 c water
1/4 c olive oil
1 tbsp soy sauce
1 tbsp brown sugar
1 tbsp paprika
2 tbsp teriyaki marinade
2 tsp worcestershire
1 tsp minced garlic
1 tsp salt
1 tsp thyme
dash of vinegar
Mix all ingredients in a large bowl. Place chicken into marinade and refrigerate, covered, for at least 2 hours. Bake on 380 until cooked all the way through, turning once, then broil last couple of minutes to brown.
Hola Y'all Later!
Thursday, May 14, 2009
Snip, snip
At first, she was a little scared, lip quivering, not quite sure what to make of the whole situation. But then, after she got comfortable in that big, "princess" throne of a hair salon, black, swivel chair, she began to enjoy all of the doting. I could tell because of the funny faces she was making and the way she would scrunch up her nose, humble enough not to break out into full-on vanity.
I forgot to keep a lock of hair though. Does anyone know the details of that rule? What sorts of misfortune can I expect to come my way for being a negligent mother who didn't even keep the childs' first lock of cut hair? I would just like to be prepared.
Day for Mother's is a Happy One
This is my fourth Mother's Day spent as an actual mother. I spent my first Mother's Day bent over in pain, full of stitches in my abdomen, packing up my things from my hospital stay, heading home to recover with my new baby girl. It was beautiful.
And so has been every Mother's Day spent thereon. Our family has made a little tradition out of going to the lake and being together as a family. We usually go with Dario's sister and husband and kids, and Blanca, Dario's mom. This has been the 2nd year in a row that we've spent the day this way. This particular Sunday was so nice, because it wasn't too hot, there was a nice breeze, not too crowded. We had a lovely time. Here are some pictures to prove it. And yes, I did mean to use the word "prove" because it's not often that I can say, wholeheartedly, that I've spent a "lovely time" with my in-laws. Oops! More on that in later blogs.
For so many years, Mother's Day was just about, obviously, my mom. It feels kind of nice to have a day that is dedicated to me, and every other mother in the world I guess, now that I'm a mother. I can remember making homemade cards for my mom on Mother's Day, and stealing quarters out of her "secret" stash, scrounging up just enough to buy some lamentable pair of costume jewelry earrings (and bus money to get back and forth to buy $1 worth of kaki mochi at the crack seed store in Kaimuki). Side note: I'm just realizing that that style of purchasing has been a habit of mine since I was, obviously, very young - - one for you, one for me. Anyways, point being, I can't wait until Giovanna's old enough to steal my money in an effort to show her affection and love by presenting me with some awful gift on Mother's Day! Ah, the things I have to look forward to. For now, I'm more than happy to accept her hugs and kisses in exchange for tragic attempts at appreciation that I'm her mommy.
Oh, and by the way, in case you're wondering...I had a wonderful birthday. I got calls, and texts, and facebook wishes from friends and family. Dario and I went on our "date" and, although I had to elbow him ever-so-slightly a couple times during the romantic comedy to get him to stop snoring, it was a nice time. (FYI, the movie synopsis is, go figure, as such: Ladies' man protagonist who, scared of real emotions, stifles his feelings by sleeping around, then after seeing the one he let get away with another man, realizes it's better to love than to have not loved at all, and confesses love for aforementioned lucky lady in most romantic of ways. American ideals of romance, blog post #6 - read it!!!) We went out to eat afterward, at a hip spot downtown, where, ironically, we felt like - okay, who am I kidding - we were the oldest ones there, and enjoyed one anothers' company.
Then, the next day, a package arrived in the mail. My friend and fellow blogger, Brittany, sent me a present! It was sweet and sentimental, just like her...an apron, with a note that said "Keep up the cooking." She's been following my blog, about the cake diaries. Thanks Brit, you always have the most creative ways of saying you care!
And thanks to everyone else for your kind words, wishes, and presents that make a silly girl like me feel the love!
Here are some more pics from my date night with Prince Charming...
Aloha Y'all Later!